Yes, you read right. In the times when Myspace was 'hot & poppin', I was a regular blogger, writing mostly about relationships and my views on certain relationship related issues. Well, it was suggested that I post a few on here and after some thought I decided to go for it. So sit back, relax and enjoy :-)
"Friday, November 07, 2008
 | Current mood:  stoked Hmmm, well it's been awhile since I've had anything to write about. So let's get to it shall we? |
I was talking to a co-worker friend today and we were talking about the male cycle. Ya know like the male version of the female period? Well he explained to me that guys actually do have like emotional or sex cycles (this he read in a book, I forget the title), almost like phases of the moon. Like seasons or something. I don't know it was pretty interesting so I made note to do my own research when I get home because at the time when we were talking, I was too busy looking at him looking at me and the whole time I'm thinking, "This single man is almost perfect. Looks good, good job, funny, smart, 2 degrees, young, and SINGLE!" Yes ladies I have found a rare species! Right there in his little 6x5 cubicle! Well it was 20min after work and I went back to my desk to lock my laptop and grab my purse. Guess what? He waits for me. Wait that's not it, he walks me to my car! Now me and this guy are strictly friends, (if you knew us, you'd know why) but what blew my mind was the fact that there are actually decent men still around! The last time a guy waited for me and walked me to my "source of transportation" (LOL) and held great conversations with me was in highschool (Luv you D.O.
). But when you're young, you don't appreciate things like that. You figure every guy has to do that. Or maybe I was just spoiled at that time. Now that I'm older, I cannot remember a time after highschool where a guy was able to hold an intelligent conversation for any length of time or even walk me to my car! Just being a gentleman. Seriously, that's sad. Think I'm joking? I went on a date one night (I drove us there by the way). Had fun! I really did, UNTIL, we got back in the car afterward and he asked me to run him to the store..Target to be exact....ok. No problem. Take advantage of the ride. It's cool since you spent like $70 on our date....but then as we're leaving he asks if I could pay him back my portion of the date because money is tight for him right now. 
WHAT?! Are you SERIOUS! So clearly I took dude straight home and paid his ass back the next day. Why? Because I rather not have some lame stalking me about some date money. I'm grown, I can afford to pay him back. I should've known better because the guy was like 25 and....Im not even going to mention everything else that's wrong with him. Just know that he is WHACK! And still today he blows up my phone trying to meet up again. 
HA!So you can imagine why I was so fascinated by my co-worker friend.
People, I know that there are still good black men out there. Atleast before today, I just kept telling myself that. Telling myself that Essence was hiring actors when they claimed to have found good black single men. That the people in the Just Married section of JET were somehow associated to JET, therefore they had the hookup to all the good black men lol That is, until today. It hit me! I have proof! He works with me! Invites me to lunch! Picks up my favorite soup while he's at the store just because he knows I like it! And he's still just a friend! Nothing in between! (Trust me, he really is just a friend...and far from gay so don't go there) I know what you're thinking, "Surely I must have other male friends that do all of these things?" Yes you are right. They hold the door, if I need help with something they are there. They have good jobs, smart, college degree......but they also sleep around, lie, and do all the things they know I hate. They may be a good man to YOU but they have not passed MY 10point inspection! BUT, all hope is not lost. I'm standing by this proof, it is in fact possible for a man to not have a bunch of baby mama drama, be addicted to sex, not swear up and down he's a goon, not have illegal side hustles or hoes in different area codes. But instead have goals, and a good job and that read books other than Vibe Mag, GIANT mag, or XXL mag (notice I mentioned no book titles).
Yes ladies, they do exist.
Now if I could only find one for myself..."
